Digging Deeper: Our Timing vs. God’s Timing
1 Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. She had a female Egyptian servant whose name was Hagar. 2 And Sarai said to Abram, “Behold now, the Lord has prevented me from bearing children. Go in to my servant; it may be that I shall obtain children by her.” And Abram listened to the voice of Sarai. 3 So, after Abram had lived ten years in the land of Canaan, Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar the Egyptian, her servant, and gave her to Abram her husband as a wife. 4 And he went in to Hagar, and she conceived.
Genesis 16:1-4a (ESV)
OUR TIMING vs. GOD’S TIMING
As we noted yesterday, Sarai has reached the limit of her patience with God. The promised child from which a great nation would arise has not yet arrived. Genesis 16:2 records Sarai telling Abram that God has “prevented me from bearing children.” This is the first indication that Sarai is desperate, and has taken matters into her own hands. She is basically usurping the sovereignty of God, and acting on her own timing.
Sarai feels pain from what seems like an empty promise of God. She feels shame for not being able to bear a child. Deep down inside, she must feel that her prayers have been unanswered, and she probably blames God for her barrenness. All this anger, guilt, and shame push her to consider an option that is not in keeping with God’s plan and timing.
We cannot place all the blame on Sarai. She approaches Abram with her plan to produce an heir through their Egyptian servant, Hagar. Abram does not question the plan, but does as Sarai asks. While this custom of having children with one’s servant (and thereby producing a rightful heir) was not uncommon in ancient times, the decision to proceed was fully made by Sarai and Abram, with no direction from God. They could not wait on God’s timing.
God’s timing, like His very essence, is perfect. Solomon notes, “Better is the end of a thing than its beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit” (Eccles 7:8). The prophet Habakkuk writes, “For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay” (Hab 2:3).
We do not know the sovereign plans of God, and that is what makes waiting so difficult. But as Solomon notes, waiting patiently will result in a better ending. God’s plan is infallible, and although it may seem slow in unfolding, it will surely come. Alejandra Tash writes, “The time between the promise and the fulfillment is the time God has allotted to create a special provision for this thing that we are waiting for with so much anticipation.”
My challenge for you is to wait patiently on God’s timing in whatever situation you are facing. When you try and speed up the process by taking matters into your own hands, unintended consequences are often the result (as we will see as this story unfolds).
Phil Meade is a father of three, and grandfather of five. He has a Masters in Theological Studies from Liberty University, and lives in Acworth. He has led various small groups throughout his more than 20 years attending NorthStar Church. He recently retired after 33 years as a pilot for Delta Airlines.