Digging Deeper – Just Accept It

So if the Son sets you free, you are truly free.
John 8:36 (NLT)
JUST ACCEPT IT
At some point in your life, you have been mistreated. Someone has lied to you, stolen from you, physically hurt you, taken advantage of you – or worse – done one or more of those things to someone you dearly love. As painful as it is, forgiveness is the only way to move beyond it.
Sometimes we resist forgiveness because we do not want to let someone off the hook. We would rather harbor resentment and quietly long for them to get what is coming to them.
As difficult as it can be to forgive the pain inflicted by others, there is one offender we often have an even harder time releasing: ourselves.
We think, “Jesus can forgive what they have done, but I cannot accept His forgiveness for what I have done.” And the devil will continue whispering that lie in your ear.
You might say, “I have destroyed relationships. I have caused irreparable harm to others. I have disappointed so many people. I just cannot forgive myself.”
Here is the good news: you are right, you cannot forgive yourself, but Jesus forgives. You simply need to accept it.
Instead, our tendency is to hold ourselves captive, replaying our failures and reminding ourselves how badly we have messed up. Jesus does not want that for us, and He was not crucified so we could live under the weight of self-condemnation. He took on our sins and bore the ultimate penalty so we would not have to.
Are there consequences for our actions? Yes, and they can be crippling. However, Jesus calls us to do three things:
• Confess our sin
• Repent, which means turning completely around
• Lock eyes with Him daily
When and where possible, we should do our best to reconcile with those we have hurt, but there is no guarantee that reconciliation will always happen.
It is important to remember that it is Jesus’ death and resurrection that forgive us and give us hope. Punishing ourselves for past sins accomplishes nothing for the kingdom, but it does give the enemy an advantage.
If you find that you are unable to move past the hurt you have caused others and unable to accept Jesus’ forgiveness, please tell someone. You can certainly speak with any of our staff at NorthStar Church, and we will help you discover the freedom found in Christ.
Pray: Lord, I have a tendency to be hard on myself when I mess up. Help me turn to You, confess my sin, abide in You, and find the freedom only You can offer. Amen.

C.A. Phillips serves as Communications Pastor and Director of Men’s Groups at NorthStar Church. He is a graduate of the Henry W. Grady School of Journalism at the University of Georgia, and he loves the Dawgs and the Atlanta Braves. He has two (grown) boys and lives in Kennesaw with his wife, Amy.

