Digging Deeper – Conditional Response?

 

But let him ask in faith without any doubting, for the one who doubts is like the surf of the sea driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For let not that man expect that he will receive anything from the Lord, 8 being a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.

James 1:6-8


 

CONDITIONAL RESPONSE?

 

Remember when I said that James was the most Jewish of all the writers of the New Testament? He was the most like the Old Testament prophets, priests, and kings we find in the early church. What were the Old Testament writers known for? That’s right, the law. James is laying down the “law” as it relates to the trials we face, the position we take, the help we seek, and the condition of our hearts and minds when we seek God’s help. But is God conditional, or is James just being pragmatic?

If our position in Christ is that of one of God’s elect only, and we have not willfully placed ourselves at Jesus’ feet in servant submission, then we will most likely ask with some doubt as to whether God will give us the wisdom we seek. We will ask for relief, not growth. Read the verse again, slowly; meaningfully. James is telling the Jewish believers that wisdom is available to them from a generous God, but they must submit to Him as James has submitted to Him if they expect to get a response. Slaves do not doubt an all-powerful master when it comes to his provision for their needs. And wisdom in time of trial is a need.

What does it mean to “ask in faith”? What is faith?

Hebrews 11 gives us a synopsis and then a lot of examples of faith lived out in the lives of the Old Testament saints. Vs. 1: “Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen.”

A slave in spirit has both hope and assurance in his master. It was only by faith that these men and women of old gained approval from God. It is only by faith that we New Testament saints can gain His approval as well. Faith is a gift from God. It is not something that we can manufacture when we need it; it comes from God Himself (Ephesians 2:8-9). Faith is as available to us as wisdom is. We must only ask for it when it is needed, and God will supply abundantly. It is the same with all of the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22) and the gifts of the Spirit (I Cor. 12 and 14). They are all given for our good and His glory!

And what is the purpose of a servant of God? I believe that God has only one purpose for his slaves; slaves He has placed in every walk of life, vocation, circumstance, and situation: TO KNOW HIM, AND TO MAKE HIM KNOWN! At North Star Church, we say: Love God (Know Him), Love People, Live Sent (Make Him Known).

I will be honest with you, as a SAVED person, I have not always fulfilled God’s purpose for me. I have, on many occasions, gone through the motions, or worse yet, I have not even recognized the opportunities the Holy Spirit has placed before me! Sound familiar, or is it just me?

But as a SLAVED person, I have almost always fulfilled that purpose.

The choice, as His child, is always mine. Do I submit to my joyful slave state and accomplish God’s amazing will in the place He has put me to serve Him? Or do I drift through this world, saved, but not used?

I love Jesus because He first loved me, so the choice is easy; and being His doulos is the most freeing place to BE!

I choose more and more to serve my Lord as He would choose to use me. I pray that you will as well so we can serve together 🙂

He loves you so much, forever!


 

Quite simply, Dave Griffith loves getting to know Jesus better by studying His Word daily and is passionate about teaching his siblings in Christ how to study His Word as well. He is passionately in love and like with his helpmate, Jackie; and is most fulfilled when he is hanging with his 10 kids (3 of his, 2 of Jackie’s, 3 are married, 2 more spiritually adopted) and 9 grandkids. He is a small group leader and a men’s group leader. He is a serial entrepreneur owning or having owned numerous businesses. He also enjoys naps!

Start, Respond, and Finish

 

Dear brothers and sisters, when troubles of any kind come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.  For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.  So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.

James 1:2-8


 

START, RESPOND, and FINISH

Before retiring, I spent 44 years in professional baseball as a player, coach, and scout. That means (not counting years I played at two MiLB levels) I had the opportunity to win 44 championships! I was fortunate to be a part of five titles. That means 39 times my season ended in disappointment. But realistically, winning anything is hard, and winning 11% might be considered good, right? Let’s tighten this up a little. Actually, all five Championships came while I played Minor League Baseball (5/10), and none came as a coach or scout (0/34).

Why do I bring this up? Am I boasting about my playing days? Was I just an adequate coach and scout? Actually, it is because I’ve had as much joy over the last 34 years as I did in the first ten. It turns out, yes, winning is fun, and I love to win, but it’s not all about wins and losses at the end of the day. I’ve learned that JOY can be found in all seasons, and quite frankly, championships are fleeting! In order to be 100% correct, I had to research the years of those championships to make sure I had it right!

As a competitor, I do love to win. Typically, to have a good chance at winning, it is nice to start well. Moreover, it is usually just as important to end well. However, how players and coaches react and respond during the hard times “in” season—that is what will truly determine not only the outcome of the season but what gets remembered in the long run about each season, win or lose!

As much as our athletic portion of life is tested, so will our Faith. As stated in James 1:3, WHEN (not if) your Faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. And that parallels seasons of competition. Name me a season when you were not tested! By a player, umpires, the team, injuries, weather! There are so many obstacles we face with both our human (coaching) life and our spiritual life! How we react can lay the foundation for growth and endurance with our human championship and, similarly, with our faith and an eternal championship!

Don’t let earthly things steal your JOY. You should work to find a way to spread that JOY throughout your team in times of struggle! Use the tests that present themselves and times of adversity to grow with your team on the field and off. It’s the perfect time for connection and building of what is needed physically and spiritually. Do not miss the opportunity to Be and build a disciple on the field and for Jesus.

Be a light, shine bright, don’t hide your Light for Christ under a lamp shade. (Matt. 5:14–16) Growth can happen on the field and off if you lead with the Character of Christ working through you. (Gal. 5:22–23)

Be well, Build well, Serve Well.

Marlin


Marlin McPhail worked in professional baseball for 44 years before retiring in 2025.  He played ten years with three different teams in the minors and then spent his final 34 years with the New York Mets as a Minor League Coach and Amateur Scout.  Marlin resides with his wife Terry in Irmo, S.C. and has two grown children and five grandchildren. 

Digging Deeper – Our Response to Trials

 

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all men generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.

James 1:5


 

OUR RESPONSE TO TRIALS

 

This is a great coffee mug verse that we like to pull out when we need some Godly advice or direction for life. But context in studying the scriptures is important, so let’s remember the context: IF YOU LACK WISDOM REGARDING THIS TRIAL THAT GOD HAS YOU IN TO DEVELOP YOUR ENDURANCE, ASK GOD FOR THAT WISDOM, AND HE WILL GIVE IT TO YOU, AND HE WON’T MOCK YOU FOR ASKING (Dave’s version).

I have to continually remind myself that Jesus came to earth as a man and endured more than He will ever ask me to endure. He knows that life is hard, trials are relentless, the enemy is real, and I am made of dust (Ps. 103:14), so you and I need some help when the road seems all uphill and full of ruts. For crying out loud, Jesus went to His Father relentlessly to seek His counsel. Why wouldn’t I? Why wouldn’t you?

God WILL answer our prayers when we are tired and weary, and He will give us all that we need to endure and to come out the other side closer to Him and looking more like His Son, Jesus!

Just an aside, who of us DOES NOT LACK WISDOM? If you did not say, I DO, then you lack wisdom! All of us lack wisdom, especially in a trial or a difficult situation. The wisest man to ever live, King Solomon, was asked by God what he wanted from the Lord, and Solomon, in complete humility, asked for wisdom. That is how he became so wise. God granted Solomon his request AND gave him wealth as well (1 Kings 3).

Why did the King ask for wisdom and not peace or might or riches? Because he had a posture of a slave. He willfully occupied a position of humility.

I asked my son many years ago, when he was going through a very intense trial that almost wrecked him, how I could pray for him. In brokenness and in all humility, he asked me to pray that God would give him wisdom. He was in a state of absolute surrender to his Lord, and all he wanted to do was hear from heaven. Not as to what he should do necessarily, but as to who he should be. I look at him now, still enduring various trials (not that one, thank God), as we all do, but a wise younger man full of joy and hope. It is one of the stone pillars (Joshua 4 for reference) I look back to when I am in a trial and I need a reminder of God’s goodness.

If you are in the midst of a trial, and you have submitted yourself to Jesus’ Lordship over your life, cry out to God for wisdom; search the scriptures for answers; He promises to give them to you with compassion, not judgment.

Tomorrow we will look at the conditions, not conditional love, of our Lord!

He loves you so much, forever!


 

Quite simply, Dave Griffith loves getting to know Jesus better by studying His Word daily and is passionate about teaching his siblings in Christ how to study His Word as well. He is passionately in love and like with his helpmate, Jackie; and is most fulfilled when he is hanging with his 10 kids (3 of his, 2 of Jackie’s, 3 are married, 2 more spiritually adopted) and 9 grandkids. He is a small group leader and a men’s group leader. He is a serial entrepreneur owning or having owned numerous businesses. He also enjoys naps!

Digging Deeper – The Result of Endurance

 

And let endurance have its perfect result, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.

James 1:4


 

THE RESULT OF ENDURANCE

 

James is speaking from the perspective of a bond-slave. Let the trials come because they are producing in me character that can endure. James wanted to be like his big brother, PERFECT AND COMPLETE, LACKING IN NOTHING!

Paul, in His letter to the Romans, states the following in chapter 5 verses 1-5: Therefore having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ (Paul was a bond-slave as well :), through whom also we have obtained our introduction by faith into this grace in which we stand; and we exult in hope of the glory of God. And not only this, BUT WE ALSO EXULT IN OUR TRIBULATIONS, KNOWING THAT TRIBULATIONS BRINGS ABOUT PERSEVERANCE; AND PERSEVERANCE, PROVEN CHARACTER; AND PROVEN CHARACTER, HOPE; AND HOPE DOES NOT DISAPPOINT, BECAUSE THE LOVE OF GOD HAS BEEN POURED OUT WITHIN OUR HEARTS THROUGH THE HOLY SPIRIT WHO WAS GIVEN TO US!

Our God and Father uses trials to perfect us. In His letter to the Philippians, Paul reminds them of this fact when he says in 1:6: For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work in you will perfect it until the day of Christ Jesus.

Do I have a bond-servant mentality? Do you?  Am I willing to lose everything for the surpassing value of knowing Jesus Christ as Lord? (Phil. 3:7-8). Am I willing to submit myself completely and totally to Jesus, laying down my do’s and don’ts, my service, my righteousness and exchange them for the righteousness of KNOWING Jesus by faith alone. 

Do I long to know Jesus intimately by bowing my soul at His feet? Am I willing to suffer for His sake and my sanctification like the Thessalonian believers did?
2 Thessalonians 1:4-5 …therefore, we ourselves speak proudly of you among the churches of God for your perseverance and faith in the midst of all your persecutions and afflictions which you endure. This is a plain indication of God’s righteous judgment so that you may be considered worthy of the kingdom of God, for which indeed you are suffering.

Becoming perfect and complete, lacking in nothing, is only attained by walking the Via Delarosa, The Way of Suffering, that our Jesus walked. Though we may never be made to carry His cross, we will most certainly be made to carry OUR cross. And it will lead to the same place if we submit our will to that of Jesus. 

Midway through this week, I am asking you and I am asking me, ARE WE WILLING TO BE HIS SLAVE AND ENDURE WITH JOY THE PATH HE HAS LAID OUT BEFORE US?
 
Tomorrow we will look at what God calls us to do during the trial!
He loves you so much, forever!

 


 

Quite simply, Dave Griffith loves getting to know Jesus better by studying His Word daily and is passionate about teaching his siblings in Christ how to study His Word as well. He is passionately in love and like with his helpmate, Jackie; and is most fulfilled when he is hanging with his 10 kids (3 of his, 2 of Jackie’s, 3 are married, 2 more spiritually adopted) and 9 grandkids. He is a small group leader and a men’s group leader. He is a serial entrepreneur owning or having owned numerous businesses. He also enjoys naps!

Digging Deeper – Trials Will Come, Be Joyful!

 

Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. 

James 1:2-3


 

TRIALS WILL COME, BE JOYFUL

 

I don’t know about you, but I have faced many trials in my 64 years on this planet! I have faced, am facing, and will face many more before the Lord takes me home to be with Him. I can tell you that I have faced those trials as a child of God, saved by grace and grace alone, and the Lord Jesus Christ, by the power of His Spirit, has brought me through them. Praise God! But the anxiety and worry that plagued me during those trials were excruciating. Can I get a witness?

I have also faced different trials from a different posture/perspective of God and as the Lord Jesus Christ’s servant. The trials themselves were really no different when I look back on them. The difference was my expectation as to what the outcome should be. As a child of God, I expected my Heavenly Father to just “take care of it” – take it away and restore my comfort. It took a while because He had work to do in my heart. But as a bond-servant of Jesus Christ, I expected to suffer, knowing that the suffering would be good for my soul. In verse 3, James calls this testing of my faith GOOD because it produces endurance. I can attest, and you probably can too, that when the test was complete, I was closer to Jesus than I was before the trial began. It may have taken just as long, but the trial did not feel as oppressive.

What does it mean to “have joy in the midst of a trial”? (My paraphrase). Is joy the same as happiness? Is joy always humanly pleasant? Not at all, but joy is fruitful. Joy is a sign that the Holy Spirit is working within me to make me more like Jesus!

Galatians 5:22, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, JOY, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Living as a slave to Christ begets the qualities that Jesus exemplified on earth and exemplifies now in our hearts. Galatians 5:25 sums it up perfectly, “If we live by the Spirit, let us also walk by the Spirit.”

Living by the Spirit is a given if we have been saved because the Holy Spirit lives inside of us. But walking by the Spirit is a different matter entirely. In order to walk by the Spirit, we have to take the posture of a doulos, a willing servant of our Lord Who allowed our trials for His glory and our good! What is your posture before Him when trials come?

Tomorrow we will look at the result of endurance!

He loves you so much, forever!


 

Quite simply, Dave Griffith loves getting to know Jesus better by studying His Word daily and is passionate about teaching his siblings in Christ how to study His Word as well. He is passionately in love and like with his helpmate, Jackie; and is most fulfilled when he is hanging with his 10 kids (3 of his, 2 of Jackie’s, 3 are married, 2 more spiritually adopted) and 9 grandkids. He is a small group leader and a men’s group leader. He is a serial entrepreneur owning or having owned numerous businesses. He also enjoys naps!

Digging Deeper – Who Am I, Really?

 

James, a bond-servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ…

James 1:1


 

WHO AM I, REALLY?

 

No one is quite sure who actually wrote the book of James. Well, we know it was JAMES, but which James? Most scholars believe that it was the half-brother of Jesus who penned the letter because he was the most Jewish of the church leadership in Jerusalem, and it was written to all of the Jewish believers scattered throughout the known world. Jesus’ half-brother did not believe that He was the Messiah during Jesus’ earthly life. James grew up with Jesus and probably did not like Him very much because Jesus never got in trouble. He was “the perfect child,” and no one likes the parent’s pet, do they? No, James did not come to a saving knowledge of Jesus as Savior and Lord until after Jesus arose from the grave. James had always been known as the brother of Jesus, but at the forefront of this very important letter, James introduces himself in a totally different way, and this introduction is important for me and for you in our own lives. WHO ARE WE, REALLY?

Are we “saved,” meaning one who trusts in Jesus for our eternal security? Someone who the Holy Spirit has made alive in Christ? Are we simply born again and have newness of life? All good things; all amazing ways to describe ourselves if we have actually been saved by the blood of Jesus! But is just being saved God’s plan for us?

James was/is the half-brother of the Savior of the world, yet he does not say that when he introduces himself to believing Jews all over the known world. No, James does not name-drop, as he certainly could have. After all, it was true! Instead, James introduces himself as: JAMES, A BOND-SERVANT OF GOD, AND OF THE LORD JESUS CHRIST,…

James introduces himself as a SLAVE! The word in the Greek is: doulos, which is translated: bond-servant, slave. It denotes one whose debt has been paid in full and is now in willful subjection to the one who paid the debt. James is introducing himself as an indentured servant, and he is happy about it.

So here is the question for me and the question for you: ARE YOU SIMPLY SAVED…OR ARE YOU SLAVED?

Our answers are important to how we read and interpret the next seven verses, the Bible as a whole, and ultimately how we live out our calling. The answer to this question determines how we face life’s trials!

So hang tight over the next four days as we discuss the trials of life and what to do about them from the perspective of whether we consider ourselves saved or we consider ourselves slaves of Christ, our Lord and Savior!

He loves you so much, forever!

 


 

Quite simply, Dave Griffith loves getting to know Jesus better by studying His Word daily and is passionate about teaching his siblings in Christ how to study His Word as well. He is passionately in love and like with his helpmate, Jackie; and is most fulfilled when he is hanging with his 10 kids (3 of his, 2 of Jackie’s, 3 are married, 2 more spiritually adopted) and 9 grandkids. He is a small group leader and a men’s group leader. He is a serial entrepreneur owning or having owned numerous businesses. He also enjoys naps!

Digging Deeper – Drink from the Fountain of Grace Every Day

 

“Then Jesus said to the woman, ‘Your sins are forgiven.'”

“And Jesus said to the woman, ‘Your faith has saved you; go in peace.'”

Luke 7:48, 50 (NLT)


 

DRINK FROM THE FOUNTAIN OF GRACE EVERY DAY

 

Jesus ends this encounter by telling the woman that her sins are forgiven, her faith has saved her, and she can go in peace. Think about how those words must have sounded to someone who had probably lived with shame and the judgment of other people for years. Notice what Jesus does not tell her. He does not tell her to spend the rest of her life punishing herself for her past. He does not tell her to work hard enough to prove that she deserves another chance. Jesus sends her away with peace because her relationship with God has changed.

Some Christians believe that Jesus has forgiven their sins, yet they continue living as though God’s acceptance rises and falls with their daily performance. When they have a good spiritual day, they feel close to God. When they fail, they assume God has pulled away.

Lamentations 3:22–23 (NLT) gives us a better picture: “The faithful love of the LORD never ends! His mercies never cease. Great is his faithfulness; his mercies begin afresh each morning.” God’s mercies are new every morning. That does not mean we receive a new salvation every day. It means we wake up each morning trusting again in the faithful love of the God who has already made us His own.

Imagine someone gives you an unlimited lifetime membership to a gym. Everything has been paid for. The membership is active, and you have complete access. But after receiving it, you never actually use it. You keep the membership card in your wallet. You tell people you are a member and may even talk about how great the gym is, but you never enjoy what has already been provided for you.

Christians can live something like that spiritually. We know what Jesus accomplished for us, but we can still carry guilt He has already removed. Romans 8:1 (NLT) says, “So now there is no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus.” When we fail, we should confess and turn back to God, but we don’t have to spend weeks trying to pay for what Jesus has already paid for.

When your love for Jesus begins to grow cold, the answer is not simply to try harder to feel something. We need to slow down and remember the cross, remember His mercy, and remember that we have peace with God through Christ.

Reflection Questions

  1. Are you living in the freedom of God’s forgiveness, or are you still punishing yourself for something Jesus has forgiven?
  2. What does it mean for you personally that God’s mercies are new every morning?
  3. Has what Jesus did for you become familiar rather than amazing?
  4. Begin today by thanking Jesus for three specific ways He has changed your life.

Steve Roach serves as the Pastor of Spiritual Growth at NorthStar Church. He and his wife, Amy, live in Acworth and have three girls, Olivia, Sydney, and Hayley and one son, Colton.  He enjoys watching sports and spending time with his family.

Digging Deeper – See People the Way Jesus Sees Them

 

“Then he turned to the woman and said to Simon, ‘Look at this woman kneeling here.'”

Luke 7:44 (NLT)


 

SEE PEOPLE THE WAY JESUS SEES THEM

 

Simon had already looked at the woman, but Jesus wanted him to look again. Simon had seen her reputation and her past. Jesus saw the person standing in front of Him and what was happening in her heart. There is something powerful about Jesus saying to Simon, “Look at this woman.” Simon had looked at her without really seeing her. He had already decided what kind of person she was, and once he put her in that category, he didn’t need to know anything else about her.

We can do the same thing. We reduce people to their worst decision, their political position, their addiction, their divorce, their reputation, or some other label. Once we have decided what kind of person someone is, it becomes easier to dismiss them.

Jesus consistently saw more. Matthew 9:36 (NLT) says, “When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them because they were confused and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd.” Jesus saw broken people and moved toward them with compassion. Simon saw brokenness and used it as a reason to stand at a distance.

Imagine riding on a subway with a father and his young children. The children are loud, restless, and disturbing everyone around them, while the father seems completely disengaged. After a while, another passenger becomes frustrated and asks the father if he can do something about his children. The father seems to suddenly become aware of what is happening. He apologizes and explains that they have just left the hospital where the children’s mother died. He quietly admits he doesn’t know how to handle what happened, and apparently neither do they.

Knowing more of their story immediately changes the way you see them. The children’s behavior has not changed, but your response probably has. We rarely know everything another person is carrying. Remembering that should make us slower to judge and quicker to show compassion. Jesus knew everything about the woman in Simon’s house, including her past, and He still treated her as someone worth seeing and loving.

 

Reflection Questions

  1. Is there someone you have reduced to a label instead of seeing as a person Jesus loves?
  2. Are you more likely to respond to broken people with criticism or compassion?
  3. How does remembering your own story change the way you see someone else’s?
  4. Ask God to help you see one difficult person through Jesus’ eyes today.

Steve Roach serves as the Pastor of Spiritual Growth at NorthStar Church. He and his wife, Amy, live in Acworth and have three girls, Olivia, Sydney, and Hayley and one son, Colton.  He enjoys watching sports and spending time with his family.

Digging Deeper – Remember the Debt Jesus Canceled

 

“Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins. He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross.”

Colossians 2:13-14(NLT)


 

REMEMBER THE DEBT JESUS CANCELED

 

Jesus’ story about the two debtors in Luke 7 helps us understand what forgiveness really means. The creditor forgave both people and canceled their debts. Neither debtor negotiated a payment plan, promised to work harder, or found enough money to settle the account. They simply could not pay what they owed, so the creditor chose to cancel the debt.

That gives us a helpful picture of what Jesus accomplished for us at the cross. Sometimes we think of forgiveness as God simply deciding our sins no longer matter, but the cross tells us something very different. Our sin mattered deeply because it separated us from a holy God. Colossians 2 says that the record of the charges against us was canceled and nailed to the cross. God did not ignore our debt. Jesus took it upon Himself and paid what we could never pay.

First Peter 2:24 (NLT) says, “He personally carried our sins in his body on the cross so that we can be dead to sin and live for what is right.” When you really think about those words, they make the cross incredibly personal. Jesus carried my sin and yours. He willingly took responsibility for a debt that belonged to us so that we could be forgiven and brought back into a relationship with God.

Imagine a teenager borrowing his father’s new truck and accidentally backing it into a concrete post. He hears the crunch, gets out, and immediately realizes how much damage he has done. The tailgate is crushed, the bumper is bent, and he knows the repairs will cost far more than he has.

When he gets home, he must tell his father what happened. He admits that it was completely his fault and braces himself for the response. His father listens and tells him that he forgives him. The son is relieved, but the father’s forgiveness does not magically repair the truck. The body shop will still send a bill. New parts will still have to be purchased, and someone will still have to pay for the repairs. If the father chooses not to make his son pay for the damage, then he will pay the cost himself.

That picture helps show what happened at the cross. God did not pretend our sin did not matter. Jesus willingly took the cost upon Himself. Isaiah 53:5 (NLT) says, “But he was pierced for our rebellion, crushed for our sins. He was beaten so we could be whole. He was whipped so we could be healed.”

The woman in Luke 7 understood how much she had been forgiven, and that shaped how she responded to Jesus. Simon did not see much in his own life that needed forgiving, so he responded very differently. When our love for Jesus begins to cool, we sometimes just need to remember what He has done for us.

Reflection Questions

  1. When was the last time you stopped and really considered what Jesus has forgiven in your life?
  2. Has the message of the cross become so familiar that you sometimes take it for granted?
  3. How does understanding what Jesus willingly took upon Himself affect the way you think about Him?
  4. Take some time today to thank Jesus specifically for what He did for you at the cross.

Steve Roach serves as the Pastor of Spiritual Growth at NorthStar Church. He and his wife, Amy, live in Acworth and have three girls, Olivia, Sydney, and Hayley and one son, Colton.  He enjoys watching sports and spending time with his family.

When Love Grows Cold

 

When the Pharisee who had invited Him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, He would know what kind of woman is touching Him. She’s a sinner!”

Luke 7:39


 

WHEN LOVE GROWS COLD

Picture this. It’s the second week of preseason, and there’s a player who is consistently showing up five minutes late to every workout. You’ve seen enough and had enough. In your mind, he’s lazy, he’s not coachable, not disciplined, and he’s a distraction. You’ve already written his story. Then a week passes, and his mom stops you in the parking lot and tells you he’s been getting both of his younger sisters to school before he heads to workouts because his father is in the hospital battling pneumonia. Suddenly, the story changes, and so does how you see him.

In a similar way, that’s what Jesus is doing in Luke 7. He’s at dinner with a Pharisee named Simon when a woman with a bad reputation walks in. She’s weeping. She pours perfume on His feet and wipes them with her hair. Simon watches and thinks, “If this man were a prophet, he’d know what kind of woman this is.” Simon sees her label, not her.

So how do we guard against our love for others becoming cold and callous?

  1. Stop Playing the Critic

Where do you land right now? More critical or more compassionate? Do you have a critical spirit? I’m reminded: being a constant critic can become an easy entry point for sin to sow seeds of division.

  1. Lay Down Your Comparisons

Jesus tells Simon about two men in debt, one owing a lot and one owing a little. Neither could pay, and both were forgiven. Simon thought he was the fifty-coin guy and she was the five-hundred. But nobody at that table could pay it back. Don’t get caught in the comparison game. Coach each of your players as who they are and what they can become.

  1. Drink From His Fountain of Grace

Jesus told her, “Your sins are forgiven. Go in peace.” Her love was warm because she knew how much she’d been forgiven. Lamentations 3 reminds us, “His mercies are new every morning.” Allow grace to be a staple in your life personally — and as a coach. You’ve been forgiven; now forgive others.

Listen Closely—

When our love grows cold, it’s usually because we have started judging instead of remembering. You judge the players, the parents, and even yourself. However, when you remember how much you’ve been forgiven, you will stop keeping score and start seeing your players and people the way Jesus sees them. So before you walk into practice today, take a minute, drink deep, and let grace warm you back up.

 

Love God. Love People. Live Sent.

Be Worth Being.

Kevin


Kevin Burrell has worked in professional baseball as both a player and MLB scout for the past 45 years, and currently serves as an area scouting supervisor. Kevin was drafted in the 1st round of the 1981 free agent amateur draft (25th selection overall), and played ten years of professional baseball with four different organizations. He and his wife, Valerie, live in Sharpsburg, Ga.